Happiness

Is there a secret path to happiness?

The secret to true happiness.

In its very nature, happiness is holistic; it’s never caused by only one thing. Still, as usual, humans always find a way to screw that up, and what is left behind is a fragmented state of being, bordering more on stress, anxiety and depression than on happiness.

To be happy, each individual must devise his or her own holistic formula. Even so, holistic means whole; this specific “whole” can be constructed from vastly different matters. It’s only if one seeks happiness in isolated endeavours that the human state of happiness breaks down.

Happiness cannot exist in an isolated state of being. Some may argue that advanced beings are sitting in a cave and meditating and are in a state of bliss and happiness. That may be true; I have no idea, but all that means is that the person in question is already whole. The isolation of the location has nothing to do with his state of happiness.

The intriguing proposition of holistic happiness is delivering the following concept:

It’s a simple yet profound truth: if you are whole, you are happy; if you are happy, you are whole. This interconnectedness of happiness and wholeness is a key concept in the pursuit of true happiness.

Let’s take that one step further and turn it into a strategy for “finding happiness.”

Instead of seeking an elusive goal such as happiness, it may be easier to pursue the slightly less elusive goal of creating wholeness, of being whole or complete. This journey of personal growth and self-discovery can be a powerful motivator in our pursuit of happiness.

If that sounds puzzling to you, that’s OK … I am sure you will find it easier to solve a puzzle than to solve the perceived mystery of happiness.

The philosophy of wholeness is, in part, delivering the answer to how to solve this puzzle.

Embarking on the journey to wholeness and happiness begins with self-awareness. Ask yourself, ‘Am I whole? Am I complete?’ These simple questions can open up a world of self-discovery, making you aware of your situation and igniting the motivation to take charge of your own happiness.

People often describe “wholeness” as a feeling, even a type of emotion, which answers what is missing.

Remember, no one can make you happy. People who love you may try to make you happy, and I am sure they make you feel good and contribute to your happiness, but they can’t by themselves make you happy. Don’t look for anyone else to make you happy. If you are unhappy or not complete, no one can make you complete; you must find what is missing.

This is a good thing again. It ensures that you do not rely on other people and do not blame them. You certainly can’t blame anyone for not making you happy.

The Secret? Delve deep into your inner self and ask: What is missing? Is there a void? How can you fill it?

Always keep looking into yourself; there will be something you feel you don’t have or you don’t do. It’s not an external source, like money, a new car or any other materialistic position. It is always something within you, like an understanding, meaning, awareness, purpose or attitude.

Have you ever had an overwhelming feeling of happiness brought about by a sudden flash of understanding, a new meaning of life, total self-confidence, and intense happiness because you suddenly felt heartwarming empathy or compassion for someone or something?

These types of internal feelings will bring on wholeness.

Let’s have a look at some of those big words that are so important for an attitude to find happiness:

Compassion, Integrity, Understanding, Awareness, Responsibility, Discipline, Confidence, Self-esteem or self-worth, Tolerance, Unconditional Love, and many more. The key is to work on these qualities and attitudes, which is more feasible than searching for happiness elsewhere.

How else can you complete yourself?

Before embracing the above “big qualities”, it may be easier to discard all these little, unimportant states in our minds that stop us from experiencing true happiness, such as:

Blaming, judging, justifying instead of taking responsibility, dominating, righteous, greed, superiority, regret, anger, hatred, jealousy, abusiveness, aggressiveness, ruthlessness, selfishness, bitterness, boredom, vein, perfectionist, shame, guilt, fear, and many more.

Even so, feeling guilty, for example, will stop you from being happy. It is also a feeling that brings something important to your awareness: What are you feeling guilty about? Do you need to correct something, or are you reacting to an outdated personal value system?

This topic would not be holistic or complete if I didn’t mention external forces that can contribute to or even be vital to your happiness.

The final step to completeness and true holisticity is not under your control because it is an external factor over which you have only a limited influence.

What is it?

To find a loving partner, the yin to your yang, the female aspect to your male aspect, or vice versa.

In our plural-driven world, a loving partner is part of a holistic happiness philosophy; one alone cannot exist. Never confuse that with the expectation you may have that s/he should make you happy. Happiness is the welcome byproduct of a beautiful relationship.

Part of a good relationship’s goal can be to make the partner happy, as long as one does not rely on the partner to deliver happiness.

There are more external forces that help happiness. Money, for example, is often stated as a source of happiness, but it obviously is not. If it were, there would be many happy people who would also be very happy to share their happiness and, therefore, their wealth.

Money can be comforting, maybe lift self-esteem, and fulfil wishes. Therefore, it will “enhance” happiness rather than be the cause of happiness.

The same holds true for most other material objects. They may enhance happiness but also start a never-ending longing for more material objects without ever obtaining true happiness.

Still looking for true happiness?

Stop looking, start being!

To find out more secrets, Dieter has written and published several books:

It Happened in the Seventies: Find out how Dieter found happiness and started a new life in Australia. It is an intriguing story of personal risk-taking, self-discovery & profound change, and a surprising life story.

Chaos in Brainland: The Secrets to Creating Harmony Free from Stress and Anxiety.

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From Brainland News - Cheers, Dieter Luske - www.dieterluske.com

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